OK here is the thing…I am a sinner who needs grace.  I know you all are shocked…LOL  I am really struggling with something and I need some input.  What do you ladies do when someone has offended your husbands.  I know I am not called to carry my husband’s offense BUT this really hurt him and me.  My hubby does not like conflict and can honestly let things go.  Seriously….He can let it roll off and I am not wired like that.  Not at all.  Plus this person was just wrong and mean…in my opinion.  The comment that was made was not in love nor was it encouraging.  Well at least I do not think it was.  Mike has told me not to say anything to the person.  I am trying hard to submit and I ahve submitted…I ahve not said anything BUT I am still angry and hurt.  What do I do with that?  I know what I am suppose to do…but come on ladies I need some practical advise here.  Should I say something to the wife or should I even talk to the guy?  Please pray for me because I need to check my heart that the reason I want to do this is to help the other person know how harsh their words can be.  I really think this person is clueless and that breaks my heart.  I mean we have had so many people say hurtful terrible things to us since Scott died..*sigh*.  God has been faithful to use them to heal my heart and to drive me to Him.  I know He will be faithful again.  I just need to figure this out that is all.  So if anyone has any words of wisdom I use could use them…